Five Years Time

Five years ago, around this time, I was driving down a sunny Indiana road under a canopy of tree branches adorned with bright green leaves.

It was spring in Indiana, and it felt like the return of the humidity that seemed to go somewhat dormant during the winter. It looked like stepping carefully over the worms who had found their way to every sidewalk on my small college campus. It smelled a little like decay, as the leaves from the previous fall were exposed to fresh air again.

That spring, I was knee deep in a romantic relationship, the first one I’d had since my first love. I have never cried so much about anything as I did during that relationship, but when the leaves turn green and the light filters through them, I don’t think about the tears, I think about those Sundays driving home from the sweet little Episcopal church I was learning to love, listening to a mix cd he’d made for me.

There was a song we both loved by Noah and the Whale called Five Years Time. It’s about a relationship and wondering about the future.

In five years time I might not know you

In five years time we might not speak

In five years time we might not get along

In five years time you might just prove me wrong

Every time I hear that song, I think about that spring in Indiana. Part of me wanted us to find a way to make it work, just as I do with every relationship.

That spring was the beginning of many lasting love affairs for me. It was during those months that I first slipped between the pages of Harry Potter, devouring the series in just a few short weeks. I listened to the music of Over the Rhine for the first time, playing “Drunkard’s Prayer” and “Born”  on repeat through headphones in my dark dorm room, while my roommate slept. I began to practice yoga, tentatively, stretching muscles I hadn’t known existed. My crush on liturgy blossomed into a commitment.

Five years have passed and I am still wild about those things, if not about that person. The song Five Years Timeproved to be prophetic, we don’t know each other now, we haven’t spoken since that clear summer day when he called and told me he didn’t see a future for our relationship.

Recently, I was talking with someone about the way the seasons remind me of relationships. The first day of spring marks the birthday of a long lost friend who was once very close, the winter and new year remind me of a relationship I chose to end, and the freedom it brought. It seems that every season carries a context now. There are no seasons without memories, without twinges of sorrow, or joy, often intermingled. Memory triggers are everywhere, unavoidable. I’m doing my best to embrace them when they come, rather than shrinking back from the emotions they provoke.

When I graduated from college, I wanted a way to mark the occasion, to remember what it felt like to be in that moment. After doing a little research, I purchased a bottle of wine I liked a lot at the time (something I’d had on a promising first date). I wrote instructions on a sticky note, telling me to open the bottle in May of 2015. That bottle has sat in my wine rack all this time, waiting until the time is right. Soon, I will take it out and open it, allowing it to breathe in glasses before taking a sip.

I hope that five years have improved the taste of that season, but I won’t know until it’s open, sliding warmly down my throat.

8 Thoughts.

  1. Cara, thank you for this gorgeous piece. Your words touched all of my senses. There is certain music that I associate with past relationships or seasons in my life, and I smile as I remember. ( LED ZEPPELIN )

    It would be an honor if you choose to share a story about the wine-tasting with us.

    • Thank you so much, Lisa.
      I’m so glad you found some of your own memories in these words. I love it when that happens.
      I just might write about that bottle of wine. I’m looking forward to seeing how it’s aged.

  2. Cara, the way that you write is an inspiration to me–especially in the way you incorporate sensory details without losing the thread of your story, and the way that your ‘conclusions’ are both open-ended and satisfying. Thank you for this piece. I will think of you and your bottle of wine this May!

  3. Cara, I love this post for so many reasons! First of all, the powerful role of music in memory has always intrigued me. It’s not so surprising that certain albums and songs have the power to conjure up a general time in our lives and the relationships that were significant during that time, but it does always surprise me a bit that almost every album I have seems to also “belong” to a season of the year. Isn’t that fascinating—that music seems to merge with the temperature of the air, the wool sweaters or sandals that temperature calls for, and a certain slant of light…?

    Also, I really love your paragraph about that spring being the “beginning of many lasting love affairs.” You captured that season of life perfectly, in that so-specific-yet-universal way readers love.

    • Thank you so much, Kristin.
      I agree. It’s amazing how songs take me back to a particular moment in time, and that time has weather and season attached, very often. I often gravitate to specific songs based on what time of year it is.

      It’s easy for me to forget that there were many gifts from relationships that didn’t last. I want to honor the things I’ve picked up along the way.

  4. beautifully written. I hope you’ll write about how the wine-tasting goes. I imagine that with the scent and taste memory-triggers mixed in there, it will bring memories.

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